The 'No Sex' Homework: A Beginner's Guide to Sensate Focus Picture this: you finally work up the courage to see a sex therapist. You sit down, confess that things have gotten a little strange in the bedroom, and brace yourself for whatever wisdom is headed your way. The therapist nods
Performance Anxiety in Bed: Breaking the Cycle So there you are, in the middle of a perfectly good moment, and suddenly your brain decides to become a sportscaster: "Well folks, we're about four minutes in, and things are looking… okay? Wait — was that a good sigh or a bad
When you try to talk about how disconnected you feel Let's start with a story that many of my clients recognize and share in relationship therapy: you're lying in bed next to someone, inches away, and yet you feel like you're calling out from the bottom of a well. You
Let's Talk: Why Intimacy Changes Somewhere between the sleep-deprived haze of a new baby, the identity vertigo of retirement, a diagnosis that rearranges your priorities overnight, a move that uproots your whole nervous system, or the slow hormonal plot twist of menopause or aging, a lot of couples quietly stop
Burnout and Intimacy. When the sex drive packed its bag and went away. Let's start with a scene that might feel uncomfortably familiar. It's bedtime. Both of you are technically in the same bed. One of you is scrolling. The other is staring at the ceiling doing mental math on
Trauma-Informed Sex Therapy that Speaks to You If you're reading this, there's a good chance something in your body or your relationships has been quietly (or not so quietly) telling you that sex, touch, or intimacy don't feel the way they're "supposed to." Maybe arousal feels tangled up with anxiety.
When your child tells you they're trans, non-binary, or questioning their gender There's a particular kind of quiet that happens after your child tells you something true about themselves. Maybe it was over dinner, maybe it was a note slipped under your door, maybe it came out sideways in an
Opening the Door to Having the Conversation So one of you has said the words. Maybe it came out shaky, over wine, at midnight. Maybe it came out of nowhere on a random Tuesday. Maybe it's been sitting in your chest for months and finally tumbled out mid-argument, which, respectfully,
Living with an Emotionally Unavailable Partner You know the feeling. You share something vulnerable, something that took a little courage to say out loud, and your partner responds with... a joke. Or a shrug. Or "I don't know, I guess I'm fine?" while their eyes drift to their phone. You're
Can We Repair the Relationship after an Affair? If you're reading this at 2 a.m. with your stomach in knots, or sitting in your car outside work because you can't face going home yet, I want to say something first, before anything else: you are not broken, and neither is
Image is ai generated Why Finding a Gender-Affirming Therapist Is So Hard, And How to Make It Easier Let's be honest: therapist-hunting is kind of complicated. You're already dealing with stuff; that's why you're looking for a therapist, and now you have to wade through a sea of
Closeness and playfulness Lost That Spark? How to Rebuild Intimacy in Your Relationship Why “Netflix and actually talk” might be the most underrated date night activity Remember the early days of your relationship? You couldn’t keep your hands off each other, every text felt like a tiny adrenaline
Something powerful happens when women gather together. Not to compete. Not to perform. Not to have all the answers. Just to be real. In our psychotherapy practice in Burlington, ON, we frequently hear that for many women, life can feel like a constant balancing act—caring for children, supporting partners, managing
Why sex therapy? If you’ve ever Googled “sex therapy near me” and immediately felt a little uncomfortable… you’re not alone. As a psychotherapist offering Psychotherapy in Burlington, I can tell you that when we share experiences with one of my associates trained in sex therapy about our practice, what
Menopause Unfiltered. Menopause, A Full Life Transition Let’s start with the obvious: menopause is not just about hot flashes and hormone changes and charts. For most women, it’s a full-body, full-life transition that can shake up our mood and cognitive abilities, our identity, our relationships, and our sex
Stay Connected, Stay Empowered Looking for helpful resources, guides, and support? I invite you to explore our blog, where you'll find interesting authors, expert insights, and other resources dedicated to growth and connection. Navigating mental health, relationships, and sexual intimacy can be complex, but the right resources can make
Photo: Denys Nevozhai For most people, the end of a year is a meaningful time. I often take time to pause from the busyness of my days to reflect and look back on the journey I travelled. As a nature lover, I enjoy contemplating the transition from
Photo: Helena Lopes The "feel good hormones." When we touch, or someone we experience as safe touches us – cuddle, hug, or hold hands – our bodies release "feel good" hormones. These hormones include oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. Once the hormones are released into our bodies, we experience
Photo: Nikklas Ohlrogge My therapist once said -well, maybe not once but a few times :-), "anyone can feel enlightened sitting in meditation alone inside a cave or on a deserted island." Relationships are invitations to exercise introspection, self-awareness, generosity, boundaries, and empathy. They test how we